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| The Superintendent, CAC Osogbo Zone, Pastor S. Famuyide |
By ‘Gbenga Bankole
The Superintendent of Christ Apostolic Church, Osogbo Zone, Pastor S. Famuyide has stated that marriage demands love not in theory, but in practical, saying that no amount of prayer can stop it from collapsing.
He noted that any family or marriage that is not putting love and faith into action is just postponing evil days.
Pastor Famuyide stated this yesterday Thursday 22ndMarch 2018 while delivering a lecture on the topic “Love in Action in the Christian Home” at the ongoing 41stAnnual Decentralised Sunday School Rally organized by Sunday School Department of CAC Worldwide in Ikeji-Arakeji Osun state.
He said that greatest joy and the greatest sorrow we experience are in family relationships, adding that joy comes from putting the welfare of others above our own because that is what love is.
The cleric said sorrow comes primarily from selfishness, which is absence of love, noting that the idea God holds for us is to form families in the way most likely to lead to happiness and away from sorrow.
While speaking on what love is not, Pastor Famiyide said; “love is not a scorecard. Love does not see favours or keep score about what one does. Love is not irrationally jealousy in the name of passion. Love is not ownership. Love is not force. Love is not a panicked need for each other. It doesn’t say: I love you because I need you. “It says:” I love you right now and that is enough. Love is not dishonest. It is not built on the foundation of deceit. Love is not resentful. Love creates an environment to express or air hurt feelings or grievances. Love is not unequalled or unbalanced. Each person is valued equally.”
He said that one of the ways to show love to our family members are helping them out in time of need, praying for them, rebuking them when needed, freely forgiving offenses, humbly serving them, meeting their physical needs, introducing them to Jesus and laying down your life.
According to him, love cannot be manufactured, it cannot be bought or traded, it cannot be forced and it cannot be controlled.
The cleric said praying for the Holy Spirit’s intervention, consulting God’s word, establishing a common ground, thinking before speaking, taking action and being open to criticism are the steps to a happy home.