By Prophet Akinwale Michael Ojo
Some couples do fight unnecessary, making marriage difficult for themselves. At times when you check when couples fight, the causes of the fight, you will be force to think whether people fighting are children or adults.
Before you fight your spouse again or blow up the roof and turn the house to a battle field, you need to ask yourself the following important questions.
1. IS THERE ANY REWARD FOR THIS FIGHT?
Wise people will never fight a battle without reward. David carefully asked what his rewards were if he killed Goliath. He never go to the battle field to confront the Giant putting his life on the line without asking what his reward is.
So you need to ask yourself this question,what is my reward if I fight my wife or Husband? What do I tend to gain if I fight the one I claimed to love? Try to list the number of things you will gain,if you don’t have any then stop the fight.
2. WHAT DO I TEND TO LOSE BY FIGHTING MY SPOUSE?
Another question you need to ask is what you tend to lose if you go ahead and fight your spouse.
You have many things to lose yes, many of them which include the following:
Your peace of mind, joy, peace at home, comradeship, unity at home, focus etc.
Can you see that you have many things to lose and nothing to gain, then why fighting?
3. IS THERE A BETTER WAY TO DO IT?
You can actually get what you want without been negative.
You can have what you desire in that marriage without fighting.
Why can’t you ask yourself,is there better way to get what I want?
Yes ! There are better ways of communication, way of patience,way of negotiation and way of diplomacy. Stop that fight, it pays nobody !
4. WILL GOD BE GLORIFY IN THIS FIGHT?
You also need to ask yourself whether fighting your spouse will glorify God. Definitely it won't glorify Him in anyway. The only person that is happy when you fight is the devil.
So why fighting when God is not glorify in it?
5. WILL THIS FIGHT ADD TO MY MARRIAGE?
Truly all you want is a better marriage and that has been your dream, but have you ask yourself whether fighting your spouse will add to your marriage or not? Will it make your marriage better or not?
Fighting your spouse will only make your marriage not better,so why fighting?
6. WILL IT ENCOURAGE INTIMACY IN MY MARRIAGE?
Will fighting my spouse bring us closer or set us apart? The answer is obvious. Fighting your spouse may create a gulf between you especially if you fight dirty.
If intimacy is what you desire then fighting is not the right way to get it.
7. IF I WIN WHO WILL GIVE ME THE TROPHY?
If I win when I fight my spouse,who will give me the medal or where will I get the trophy?
Is there any award or reward for winning?
The answer is NO! since fighting your spouse is without reward or award,them be wise stop fighting.
8. WHY AM I EVEN FIGHTING?
Is it not surprising that most couples that fight do not even know why they are fighting.
Many fight on very "foolish" things that Children will not even fight about. They fight about tooth paste,water on the rug, toilet not been flush, handkerchief on the table, plates not washed, food to hot, TV too loud etc.
Most of this things are things we should handle without any stress if we can just rise up to be adult and not married boys and girls.
God will give us the needed wisdom to defeat Satan in all of his attacks on Christian homes in Jesus name.
Prophet Akinwale Michael Ojo, Christ Apostolic Church Orisun-Iye, Omu-Aran Kwara State.
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